The first thing people need to realize is that in actuality, the drug addict is not in control of his or her actions. They probably do not understand the “facts” about drug addiction at all. What they do understand is that they need their next fix as soon as possible. While it is natural for loved ones to want to do as much as they can for the addict, they must first realize that they have an advantage; that is, they can learn about the addiction. They can also learn what they can change about themselves that will help the drug addict. Those are very powerful weapons against drug addiction.
Contact a drug rehab or an alanon agency and get all of the information you can to arm yourself in this battle you will be waging against your loved one’s drug addiction. Empower yourself and learn how you can change yourself and your thinking to make you better able to help the drug addict.
Confrontation or intervention is best done with a professional there but lacking that, you must inform the addict in a firm but positive way that you will no longer be a part of their addiction. Inform them that they cannot come around while they are drunk or high. Assure them that once they decide they want help, you will be there with them every step of the way but until then, you do not want to be a part of their addiction. This not only sets boundaries for the addict but also protects you and allows you to set boundaries for yourself. This helps you dig out of the confusion and chaos caused by the drug addict and helps you take back your own life. You have to be willing to help yourself in order to help an addict.
If ever you need encouragement, contact a drug center or alanon. You are going to have to be strong in order to help the addict once they decide they want help. In most cases, if those around them are firm in setting boundaries, the addict will eventually opt for help. That is where remaining positive comes in. Even though you must be firm about them not being present while high, constantly remind them that once they decide to get help, they will be welcome any time. Remind them they will not be alone and that you will help them through it.