Changing a drug addict would be similar to changing a tree into a convertible.
It simply cannot be done. If the addict accepts help and receives rehabilitation, then they may change but a drug addict does not and will not change as long as they are addicted to their drugs.
It is, however, possible to convince them to get help. It usually doesn’t happen overnight and you have to be persistent, but it can be done. The drug addict is acting on the instructions and reflexes of the drug. The drug is controlling them; they are not able to control the drug. Even if they have secluded themselves for the most part, you will undoubtedly have some contact with them. When you do, tell them how concerned you are about their addiction (which they may deny) and that you would like them to get help.
Find a rehab that will offer your loved one all of the tools they need to recover.
* * * Try to remain positive and even if you have to get counseling for yourself, keep your own thoughts in perspective. * * *
Drug addicts take many people down that grimy alley with them if they can so do not let them. Keep on with your own life, regardless of what the drug addict does. This may seem harsh but it is called “tough love”. Make the addict accept responsibility for their own actions and drug abuse. Don’t enable them.
Despite all of your efforts, it may not be enough. If this is the case then you must decide if you want to stay in the relationship or get away from it. Sometimes, the addict is our child or other close relative. Breaking off contact is not easy but it may be what is needed for that loved one to see they need help and also for you not to be sucked down into the addiction thinking.
* Many addicts do decide to get help. If they do, give them all of the assistance you can.
Know the facts about the different types of rehabs and what they do. They can be very different. Find a rehab that will offer your loved one all of the tools they need to recover. Try to find a residential rehabilitation program since those are most effective and successful. It’s a long haul, even with rehab since relapses are common, so it takes a lot of persistence. Only you can decide what you are willing to put into the relationship but trying to actually change a drug addict is a lost cause and you would be wasting your time.