One of the most frustrating and futile feelings in the world is watching someone you love suffer through drug and/or alcohol addiction.
Because of the nature of addiction, more often than not they will not even see that they have a problem. Everyone else sees it, however. It used to be thought that only the drug addict could ask for help, but that theory is outdated. It is not uncommon at all for a loved one to be the first to call in to a drug rehab center and ask how to get help. The family and friends are just as affected by the drug as the abuser themselves are. Living with an addict isn’t easy. Calling them out isn’t easy either, but it is usually affective in getting them help.
Never lie or cover up for the addict. In fact, let them know that this is your intention. Let them know that you love them and you hate seeing what the drug is doing to them, but you are not going to lie or cover up for them anymore. Be true to your word. If they pass out from a drug-induced state on the front steps, leave them there. It is their addiction, not yours and you are not responsible for it. Remain as positive as possible, but be very clear about how they need to get help for their addiction. Do not allow their addiction to destroy you. This is a conscious choice that you make. Yes, it is difficult to watch a loved one go through addiction, but by separating yourself, you may just force them to see the light and get some help.
If you normally loan the addict money, stop. If worse comes to worse and they cannot get their drug and threaten suicide, call 911. That will put them right where they need to be. If possible, gather family and friends together to talk to the addict. You do not have to be tough and confrontational. Just tell them how you feel about their addiction. Despite what people may think, addicts do often seek help when there is intervention. Anyone with a loved one with an addiction can also call a rehab center and find out more about what can be done to help the addict. It may be awkward at first, but you have to distance yourself from them.
It is their addiction…