Dealing with a drug addict while they are under the influence is impossible.
If the time comes when the addict’s response is needed for something, it is best done when they are sober. Although it would be tempting to be accusatory during the talk, it is best to keep things on a positive, but firm note. If they are adults, talk to them like adults and treat them as adults. If the opportunity does arise to talk to an addict, it may be the only chance to convince them that they have a problem. Do not accept excuses and do not coddle and enable them. They are likely to come up with excuses as to why they drink or do drugs or they may deny it all together.
The drug addict is not going to want to hear that he has a problem, but the more he hears it, the more he will start to realize it.
* While the addict is there, and straight, it is a good time to lay down the law.
In a positive tone, the addict should be told that the drugs will not be tolerated. They should also be told that the behaviors will not be tolerated. Basically, talk to them in a manner that conveys that the addiction is obvious and help is needed. Express concern about their safety and the family as a whole. Sometimes it helps to have a professional counsellor available when discussing rehabilitation. It’s unlikely there is things more important that need discussed. The important thing is that the speech be positive yet firm. Tempers may still flare. The drug addict is not going to want to hear that he has a problem, but the more he hears it, the more he will start to realize it.
* Coddling the addict is not recommended.
The message that has to come through is strength and unity (if other family members are present). Be realistic but not overly dramatic. That shouldn’t be difficult since it is a true statement that drugs kill, and it is a proven fact. Express to the addict that the family does not want that to happen to him and that the family will support the addict’s effort to get clean.
The subject of rehabilitation should never be avoided, especially if you finally have an addict’s attention and he/she is sober. A rehab center or drug counsellor may have more information, particularly if a family is trying intervention.
The drug addict is not going to want to hear that he has a problem, but the more he hears it, the more he will start to realize it.
cat says
I’m trying to help a friend with an opiate addiction. He moved in with me at my request (because i lived 1500 miles away from his hangout) and did really well for about 7 months. He moved out during that time and I just found out he is using. He works and keeps his job but never seems to have money. He wants to move back in with me. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be a babysitter but I also don’t trust him. If I don’t allow him to move back its very possible he will be out on the street. Just looking for guidance. Any suggestions would be appreciated. He says drug counseling doesnt work for him .