Our society is full of images of external success – things we must have and aspire to if we want to be a success. Even people who have a strong sense of personal worth and family values, who don’t place reliance upon having money for their happiness, are not immune to feelings of how much better things could be if only they had (or could earn or win) a lot more money.
Today we “need” to have more things than in previous generations – most of the things that we need today are of recent invention. Today we have the means to purchase these new necessities.
It is now open to both men and women, whatever their background or birth to use the workplace as a ladder to achieve financial wealth.
Encouraged and given incentives we plot the most expedient way to use our skills and some further education to get us to the top of the financial ladder. Both parents might decide to work outside the home, for status, money and prestige.
Children are of course essential to support our sense of completeness. In between our endeavors to become professionally the best, we find a way to conceive children and use drugs to induce birth to happen in between extremely important corporate schedules and meetings.
As the child grows up, we can be at an important meeting and still be there with our child at sports day with link up video phones. Then, we pick up our child from after school care, with a family serving of take away food, and give them some “quality’ time.. A babysitter or compliant granny can come around, in the evening, to mind the children while you attend yet another important corporate meeting.
You might find that you need some prescription drugs for a variety of ailments: headaches, tension, and general feelings of stress, but that is dismissed as the price you must pay for living life in the fast lane and achieving a lifestyle that other people might envy.
Of course you don’t do illicit drugs or drink alcohol to excess or do you. Very much is at risk if you give in to or show signs of substance dependence, or emotional need, when climbing the corporate ladder.
The pressures can be immense – when children make extra demands upon your time and attention – there is nothing left to spare. You have spent the necessary “quality time” with your child today, so how come they are still crying for attention when you need and expect them to be out of your hair and asleep?
The children grow up in an environment that most say is a “good home”. a home which is clean, well organized, the children never short of food, the latest trends in fashion or apparently neglected.
How come so many children from “good homes” do drugs, drop out and sometimes suicide?
It can be easy to immerse ourselves in the challenges of the commercial world at expense of being available and present for our children and their needs. Teenagers are just as much in need of parental support and re assurance as are younger children.
Family values and bonding are more important than acclaim or material wealth.
If drug use and lack of respect are issues in your house – use some holistic family counseling. Open lines of real communication between family members and see what a difference it can make.